Teens and Secret Apps: Decoding Online Privacy and Staying Safe
Understand why teens use secret apps, their hidden communication methods, and how to keep them safe online.
THUNDER BAY – TECH – In the digital age, teens are increasingly turning to apps and coded communication to keep their online activities private. While seeking privacy is a natural part of growing up, parents should be aware of potential risks, including exposure to harmful content, cyberbullying, and inappropriate online behavior.
Nishanawbe Police recently reported increased incidents of online cyberbullying in Northern Ontario communities.
This January, the police service reports that “In recent weeks, NAPS has observed an apparent spike in incidents related to cyberbullying in many of the 34 Northern Ontario communities it serves. This is incredibly alarming, especially because of the known links between cyberbullying and youth suicide.
“The public has become more aware of this connection following the highly publicized and tragic case of Amanda Todd, who faced intense cyberbullying before she died to suicide in 2012.
“Suicide rates are an estimated six times higher for First Nations youth compared to non-Indigenous youth in Canada. In remote and far north communities, these rates are believed to be 11 times higher.
“NAPS would like to encourage parents, teachers, and guardians to speak to their children about cyberbullying and its potentially tragic consequences”.
By understanding the apps teens use and the codes they rely on, parents can create a safer online environment while respecting their child’s need for independence.
Why Do Teens Use Secret Apps and Codes?
1. Privacy and Self-Expression
Adolescents value privacy as they explore their identity and social circles. Apps like Snapchat (disappearing messages) and Instagram Close Friends Stories allow them to share selectively, keeping some activities hidden from adults.
2. Avoiding Parental Oversight
Vault apps like Calculator+ or Keepsafe disguise private photo or message folders as utilities. These apps help teens store sensitive content away from prying eyes.
3. Anonymous Interactions
Platforms like Whisper, Tellonym, and Yik Yak promote anonymity, which can sometimes encourage cyberbullying or risky behavior.
4. Coded Communication
Teens often use abbreviations, keyboard shortcuts, and emojis to convey messages subtly. These codes can range from harmless to alarming, depending on the context.
Top Secret Apps Teens Might Use
- Snapchat
- Known for disappearing messages and stories.
- Risks: Screenshots or saved snaps can breach privacy.
- Calculator+ (Vault Apps)
- Disguised as calculators or utilities to hide photos, videos, or messages.
- Risks: Enables secretive behaviors that evade adult monitoring.
- Burn Note
- Allows users to send self-destructing messages.
- Risks: Often used to share private or inappropriate content.
- Tellonym
- Anonymous Q&A platform linked to social media accounts.
- Risks: Frequently associated with cyberbullying.
- Discord
- A chat platform popular for gaming communities, but often used for private conversations.
- Risks: Exposure to unmoderated discussions and inappropriate content.
- Reddit
- Offers access to diverse communities, including some with adult themes.
- Risks: Teens may encounter unfiltered, mature discussions.
Common Code Words and Keyboard Shortcuts Teens Use
Teens often use slang, acronyms, or emojis to communicate discreetly. Here are some examples:
- POS: Parent Over Shoulder (used to alert peers when an adult is nearby).
- KMS/KYS: “Kill Myself” or “Kill Yourself” (can indicate distress or joking inappropriately).
- 9: Code for “Parent is watching.”
- CD9: Code 9, signaling the presence of an adult.
- Finsta: A “fake Instagram” account used for private or less curated posts.
- PIR: Parent in Room.
- LMIRL: Let’s Meet in Real Life (a potential safety red flag).
- Emojis: Some emojis have hidden meanings. For example:
- 🥀 (wilted flower): Feeling depressed or upset.
- 🚬 (cigarette): Can symbolize vaping or smoking.
- 🍑 (peach) or 🍆 (eggplant): Often used to reference body parts or flirtation.
Tips for Teens: Staying Safe Online
1. Think Before You Share
Even on apps with disappearing messages, screenshots and saved content can become permanent. Keep in mind that not so innocent picture you share online with someone can end up being spread all over your school, or beyond.
2. Understand the Risks
Research the platforms you use. Recognize when anonymity might expose you to harm, such as cyberbullying or predators.
3. Seek Help When Needed
If you encounter something that makes you uncomfortable, speak with a trusted adult, a teacher, or a counselor.
Tips for Parents: Monitoring and Guiding Your Teen
1. Learn About Popular Apps
Familiarize yourself with apps like Snapchat, Discord, and Calculator+. Download and explore them to understand their features.
2. Decode Communication
Be aware of slang and emojis used by teens. If something seems unusual, ask your teen about it calmly.
3. Use Monitoring Apps Responsibly
Tools like Bark, Qustodio, or Net Nanny can help track your teen’s online activity. Use them transparently and in collaboration with your teen.
4. Encourage Open Conversations
Create a judgment-free space for discussing online behavior. Frame conversations as educational, not accusatory.
5. Set Clear Boundaries
Establish screen time limits, app restrictions, and rules about sharing personal information online. Involve your teen in creating these rules to ensure buy-in.
Red Flags to Watch For
- Unexplained changes in mood, especially after being online.
- Increased secrecy about phone use or apps installed.
- Usage of slang or codes that suggest risky behavior.
If you notice concerning signs, approach your teen with empathy and offer to work together to resolve the issue.
Conclusions
Understanding the digital tools and coded language teens use is crucial for creating a safe online environment. By fostering trust, maintaining open communication, and staying informed, parents can guide teens to navigate the digital world responsibly while respecting their privacy.